Transitions and Open Doors

1/8/24

In life you always must be ready to adjust, you often find yourself asking what to do next!? What to do now? Because things are always changing. The word that always stands out to me is transition according to the Merriam Webster Dictionary. Transition is defined as “a change or shift from one state, subject, or place. That word stands out to me so strongly because life is full of them. Whether it be a new job, job promotion, relocating to a new town, family members and friends passed away it seems like you can never get a chance to just catch a breath. Things are constantly changing with the day. With all that being said I don’t want you to log out of this blog post looking at change as a bad thing. Change is not always negative, as a matter of fact I believe in 2024 in a lot of ways change will work out for the better. Here’s 2 things I want you to have in your heart for this year and beyond!

1.      Accept the transition- “Those who expect moments of change to be comfortable and free of conflict have not learned their history.” —Joan Wallach Scott

Change is going to happen there is no doubt about it, the key is accepting it and move forward with grace. The last two years of my life has been wrecked with transition. In November 2022 my father suddenly passed away from a massive heart attack, my heart seemingly ripped in half seeing him in that hospital bed at Temple University. Even more recently on September 28th at 1:37am my mother passed away on her bathroom while I was there urgently trying to assist her breathe. I loved my mother more than words can explain. My friends, I have a PHD in life transition. The bitter truth is there is nothing I can do to change the outcomes of these circumstances, so instead I choose to accept. I would be lying to say it is easy because it is very difficult and even as I write this I have yet to figure it out. The fact remains accept it! Accept that the person left you, accept you were fired from that job, accept that you failed the test. I am not saying it does not hurt and no lie losing my parents was the worst hurt I’ve ever experienced and it’s not even close. I want you to look at the word accept to today as simply meaning “case closed” That opens up your mind, body, and spirit to what do I do now?

2.     Stay Ready The cliché has been often stated and heard when one door closes another door opens. A closed door, a rejection, termination is often the sign of a new season. The door will be there, but the question lies is will you be ready to walk through the open door. “So if you stay ready, you ain’t gotta get ready, and that is how I run my life.”

— Will Smith

One of the worst things that could happen is the things that you have aspired of, dreamed about, or even prayed for is ready to happen for you but once the paper hits your desk, when the deal is ready to be signed, or the position is finally open you just aren’t ready. I believe with all my heart and soul, that things in the world will move at an accelerated pace. Media, technology, tragedy in the Middle East, Hollywood, even the economy are all changing so fast. Things are happening all around the world right under are nose. While a lot of things that are happening are not good and some things will get worse. Even while all the bad is happening, always remember when there is a problem it is an opportunity to bring a solution. Doors are going to open fast for you, so get ready right now, take the course, hit the gym, prepare the outlines, go to therapy. Whatever it is, deep down you know it.

So now go do it. Be great and stay ready!